5 Online Dating Messages to Reel Them In!
Posted by Tolani Osan for BounceBack.com
Dating for the most part is a social game. It's not always who the prettiest person is or who has the most money or best job. Sometimes it's simply about who has the most compelling, and yet sincere, reason for you to take a chance on them. Online dating is pretty much the same. Though your information-likes, dislikes, ambitions and goals-is available upfront, you still have to make an effort to sell yourself. That's where the messages come in. You already know what NOT to say, now lets talk about what you should to get a response.
Introductory
Hi I'm Tolani. You seem like a cool person to grab some coffee with! Would you like to chat some time?
Very simple; Introduce yourself and maybe throw in a compliment but don't let the conversation dangle. Often times you could get a message but there's no incentive for you to answer because there isn't much more than "Hi, you're cool." Ask a question that shows your interest. Inviting them to chat is a good start.
Complimentary
Hi! I love your profile photo! So creative. Are you into photography?
Compliments are everyone's best friend. So lead with a sincere compliment about the person's profile. Not only does it show that you took the time to read their profile which they possibly put a lot of effort into (you know, trying to sound clever and funny, giving you a more dynamic sense of their personality) but it also shows your interest in them is more than just physical. Be sure to ask a question about what drew you to their profile.
Nonchalant
Hey. I like your profile. Would be nice to get to know you better sometime.
Two of the no-go messages mentioned in the previous article were "over it" and "desperate." A quick fix if your messages are prone to sounding desperate or over it, is just to send a nonchalant message. Subtle wording like "would be nice" and "sometime" suggests to the receiver that you will not die if they don't respond. It also alludes to a confidence that you don't need online dating; perhaps you're just there to try something new.
Corny/Humorous
If I received a nickel every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I'd have five cents.
I know, painfully, corny but sometimes, wrapped in the right bow, these pick-up lines do just enough to break the ice. You may even get a response about how that was the worst message anyone has ever sent them but… you did get a response, yes?
Stimulating/Thought-provoking
Are you the same person you were when you woke up this morning?
If your fishing for an intellectual complement, then it could be interesting to ask a question you have often pondered about yourself. Philosophical questions are nice but lighter questions like riddles and jokes are just as good.
In all messages you send, if you can manage to convey a sense of confidence and sincerity, you've done half the work! Above all, have fun. Online dating, well dating in general, is not always to be taken so seriously. So don't sweat the unanswered messages (even if its some of your best material).
Also Check out the 7 Worst Online Dating Messages!
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