light bulbIn the movie Manhattan, Diane Keaton says to Woody Allen that he's the kind of man she could see herself have kids with - naturally, he tells her to hit the lights. It's common in movies for the dimming of the lights to be a signal for getting it on (I suppose it helps them steer clear of NC-17 ratings). Like most movie sex, I tend to disagree. I'm not saying you need to see each other under the unappealing cast of florescent lighting - just use a dimmer switch or light some candles. Here are five reasons why:
-- EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz
- Sex is considered very much a physical activity - let's get physical, Olivia Newton John sang. Touching each other makes us feel good. However, I think humans are more complicated than that: visuals can make us feel good too. Let's get visual!
- Seeing your partner and having your partner see you brings a new level of intimacy to the experience.
- Not only does it allow you to better get to know your partner, but you'll also know where you're going. Going down on someone - especially a new partner - takes enough concentration and difficulty as it is… try cutting off all means of seeing what you're doing!
- Allowing someone to see you naked is a sign of trust and confidence - two characteristics that can make someone very attractive. Body shame is a big issue in our society, especially when we see hundreds of advertisements a week of people with unrealistic bodies. Letting your partner know you want to really see them, even with the lights on, may help them realize they don't need to be ashamed. No matter your body type, you can still be sexy and still deserve pleasure.
- Perhaps I'm alone in this, but when I look at people in the dark, they look like mysterious and scary monsters. I want to know who I am sleeping with!
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