5 Reasons Why He Didn't Call

By April Daniels Hussar, SELF magazine

It's happened to all of us. The date goes perfectly -- he's cute, he laughs at your jokes and you're even having a good hair day. The stars have aligned ... you can't wait for the next date! And then ... nothing. Zip, nada, zilch. He doesn't call you again. Why?

A new online service called WotWentWrong.com provides a way for you to get feedback from a date who never reappeared, or a new romance that died without explanation just as you thought things were getting good. To use their service, you register, fill out a form with the specific info you're looking for, and it gets sent to your delinquent date. He or she can then reply through the site without having to contact you. Closure, anyone?

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Let's face it, most of us are not going to send a form to the guy who dissed us. But we still want to know ... why didn't he call? Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure, says there are usually five common reasons behind his failure to make post-date contact:

1. He's scared ... that you wanted too much too soon. Perhaps he senses you were mentally picking out china patterns?

2. He's scared ... of your AWESOMENESS. No, seriously. Levine says it's possible "he really likes you and got so freaked out that you may be someone he's not ready for that he bailed before anything could really begin." And do you really want to date a baby? No.

3. He's just not into you. Maybe he wasn't attracted to you, plain and simple, or was turned off by something you did. "It sounds harsh," says Levine, "but there are plenty of things about men that make us feel the same way." (Can't get him off your mind? The Ex-App blocks you from calling or texting him, so you don't lapse into booze-fueled stalking/groveling.)

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4. He just wanted to hook up (whether you did or not) and nothing more. If a guy is only out for one thing, it doesn't matter how fabulous you are -- if he gets it or doesn't get it -- he's on to the next option.

5. Freak accident! Seriously. "On occasion, sometimes things happen for reasons that don't have anything to do with you," says Levine. Maybe he got back together with his ex or had a family emergency. These things happen!

"The reality is if a guy flakes out for whatever reason -- stands you up, doesn't call, etc. -- take it as a red flag in the sense that it may hurt a little now, but it's better than heartbreak later," Levine says. "Then, get back out there so you can meet your match!"

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