5 Things You Don't Know About Men Today

Recently Cosmo conducted a large-scale survey of guys to help us figure out what males want. You don't want to miss what these psychologists, anthropologists, sex therapists, and sociologists revealed...

1.Men today think they have it harder than previous generations did

"On the one hand, [men] are told to be thoughtful, caring, passionate, connected, fathering types. On the other hand they're still expected to be 'macho'," explained William Pollack, PhD, the founding director and president of the Centers for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, in Massachusetts, who cites these conflicting messages as a major stressor for guys.

2.All that pressure affects their sex life
"The number one issue I deal with is low desire," said Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of numerous books, including She Comes First. "Ten years ago, it was always women that were mainly experiencing loss of libido. Today the amount of male patients with low desire outstrips female patients." And according to Kerner, all of them attribute it to internal pressures. "They say, 'I'm under stress, I'm not feeling like myself, I'm having work problems'."

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3. Why they're waiting to settle down
"Physically, they can wait longer to have children later on [because of] medicine," says Wes Moore, who is a youth advocate, army combat veteran, business leader, and author of the best-selling book The Other Wes Moore. But he adds that it has a lot to do with how high women set the bar for someone with husband potential. "If a woman is looking for a man that is educated and has a good job and is chivalrous and prepared to be a husband, the number of guys that you can choose from is dwindling."

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4.They're becoming more and more OK with women with bigger paychecks
"Young men are not particularly troubled by the idea that their partners will bring in more money. In fact, they are much more likely to hope to have a partnership where maybe you're bringing in more money this year and he's bringing in more money next year," explained Kathleen Gerson, PhD, professor of sociology at New York University and chair of the Faculty of Arts and Science Gender Equity Committee.

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5. But they can still feel threatened by your success
"Women are making the decision to be both productive and reproductive," said Lionel Tiger, PhD, professor of anthropology at Rutgers University. And according to him, this can be hard on men. "The productive element for the male has been taken out from under him," which can leave a guy feeling not only that he has nothing to contribute, but also that he's not needed at all.

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