5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him Away

5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him Away
5 Ways to Snag a Man Without Scaring Him Away

Times have changed, ladies. We no longer have to wait by the sidelines while every other girl dances with a cute boy. We can ask him out to dance because it's no longer taboo to tell a man you're interested. It's 2014 and women are encouraged to be proactive. And so we are.

But what about the myth that chasing a man reeks of desperation? It can if you do it the wrong way. As Rori Raye states in this YourTango post, "When we find ourselves falling for a man, it's normal to start feeling that if we don't show enough interest in him he might get the wrong message and drift away." That's when we act like boy-crazy teenagers.

So, yes, show him you like him! Just make sure to do it right. Here are five ways to chase a man without scaring him away.

1. Ask Him Out

A man will notice you if you are bold enough to ask him out. It isn't desperate; it shows confidence. Besides, many women don't go this route so you will stand out from the crowd. What can you say? You're a woman who knows what and who she wants. Just make sure your outing is a casual affair. That way if he doesn't seem interested when you're out on a "date," it doesn't feel like a real date. Less embarrassment for you. Not like you'd care, you emboldened woman, you.

2. Get His Number

If you see a man that you like, don't be shy: Get his number. Many times a man won't think a woman is interested. If you ask for his digits, he doesn't have to guess. But don't give him your number. Take his so you are in control of the situation.

3. Contact Him

You have his number which means the ball is in your court. Don't call right away. Give it two or three days and then send him a text or call him at a decent hour (evening time on a weekday is best). If he responds, good. If he doesn't, give it a few days. If you still don't get an answer, you have a choice -- contact him one more time or let it go. At this point I usually go for it one more time, especially if I just texted. Technology can be loopy at times. He may not have received your phone call or text. A second call or text and no answer, however, is a clear indication that he's just not that into you. That's when you delete his number.

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4. Hang Around Him

Let's say you're the shy type. You aren't yet comfortable asking him out or getting his phone number. So, hang around him. Go to a bar he frequents. Let him see you in his environment. This way you can chat, flirt, and give him clear signs that you are interested without sinking your teeth in and scaring him half to death. Just don't show up every week. He may think you're a stalker. If he doesn't ask you out after hanging out a handful of times, it's time to be bolder.

5. Just Tell Him

It's as easy as that. You tell him how you feel and wait for his response. But don't send him a text declaring your feelings of like. You need to express yourself in person so you can gauge his reaction. If he says he is also into you, move forward. If he's vague, that's not the best sign. Remember: Just because a man doesn't say no doesn't mean it's a yes. He may not want to hurt your feelings. Unless it's a strong yes, leave it be. Professing your feelings repeatedly will make you the desperate girl that needs his love.

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-By: Sujeiry Gonzalez

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