6 Things Gwyneth Paltrow Said About Her Marriage to Chris Martin Before Their Split

by Gena Kaufman

In light of yesterday's sad news that Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are "consciously uncoupling" (that's breaking up, if you don't speak Goop), we decided to take a look back things she's said about their relationship. In the past few years, Gwyneth has opened up about the difficulties of marriage and given us a lot of frank and sometimes controversial tips and observations about love. Here are a few that made us think...

On how to handle a fight with your guy on Chelsea Lately: "The woman was saying, 'I got into a big fight with my husband and I got home and I wanted to scream and yell' and Gwyneth was like, 'Whatever you're doing just do the opposite, just go at him with love and you give him a blow job."

On having tough talks (and how her diet changed her relationship) in Self: "You're not learning anything unless you're having the difficult conversations. Dealing with things directly changed my relationships. Sometimes when you get clear about who you are, others get less comfortable because they liked who you were. It's changed my marriage [to Chris Martin, 36] too, but he's up for the challenge."

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On the secret to staying married, in Glamour UK: "It's hard being married. You go through great times, you go through terrible times, we're the same as any couple. I asked my dad once, 'How did you and Mom stay married for 33 years?' And he said, 'Well, we never wanted to get divorced at the same time'. And I think that's what happens."

"When two people throw in the towel at the same time, then you break up, but if one person's saying, 'come on, we can do this', you carry on."

On the importance of choosing a good father for your children, in Elle: "Sometimes it's hard being with someone for a long time. We go through periods that aren't all rosy. I always say, life is long and you never know what's going to happen. If, God forbid, we were ever not to be together, I respect him so much as the father of my children. Like, I made such a good choice. He's such a good dad. You can never be relaxed or smug and think, I've got this thing. That's also part of it--keeping yourself on your toes. I'm not going to take this for granted."

On whether she could stay with someone who cheated, in Refinery29: "I think that if the idea of being committed to someone is important to you, you begin to value certain parts of your social life over another. No couple is the same, and as such, every couple takes on different challenges. I would like to think that I would be forgiving and/or forgiven, but I can't give an honest answer as I haven't really experienced that."

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On the challenges of marriage and the importance of communication, in Good Housekeeping: "Marriage is hard. Chris and I have had our ups and downs, big-time. Marriage is way more complicated than just Who gets to control the remote? But hopefully we keep heading in the same direction and getting through the obstacles."

"I'm a good talker. I definitely have to coax things out of him when we talk. You know, he's British, so it's a different lexicon totally. But you have to communicate. Otherwise there's no relationship. I can depend on him. He makes me laugh. He's really appreciative of me. You know, he makes me feel special."

Were you surprised by their split, or did her statements on their marriage make you think they were in trouble?

A sweet moment from the past. Awww: This Chris Martin-Gwyneth Paltrow Moment Made My Heart Skip a Beat

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