7 Reasons Not to Settle for the Wrong Guy

Photo by: Photo credit: Frank Vincentz (Own work), via Wikim
You Want Someone to Complete You
If you feel incomplete, no human being will be able to change that. Rather than get hitched, look for ... more 
Photo by: Photo credit: Frank Vincentz (Own work), via Wikim
You Want Someone to Complete You
If you feel incomplete, no human being will be able to change that. Rather than get hitched, look for wholeness in other ways. Try meditation. Get into therapy. Find a purpose for your life. For instance, maybe you dedicate your free time to solving a world problem, to doing good deeds, to volunteer work, or something else. Once your life is full and happiness naturally arises from within, then you're ready to get married. Happily married people feel complete alone as well as with their partners. Photo credit: Frank Vincentz (Own work), via Wikimedia Commons
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Fri, Dec 20, 2013 3:07 PM EST

Not long ago, researchers at the University of Toronto were curious: What makes people stay in unfulfilling and even abusive relationships? What makes some women settle for the wrong guy? What makes some men marry the wrong woman? To find out, they surveyed adults in Canada and the US. Their conclusions: loneliness is painful, and some people would rather be unhappy in a relationship than unhappy alone. I've watched this phenomenon a lot. When I get together with some of my girlfriends, I'll sometimes hear a never-ending series of complaints about their men. Each time we get together, the complaints are the same. The men never change, and the relationships never improve. Why do they stay? Often, they tell me that they don't want to sleep alone. As much as they hate these guys, they hate the idea of being single even more. What people may not realize is that unhappily married people feel lonely too, and that loneliness can feel like a prison, one that is impossible to escape. Sometimes it's good to settle, but you want to do it for the right reasons. Click through for 7 reasons not to settle for the wrong guy! -By Alisa Bowman

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