7 Surprising Ways to Win an Argument with Your Partner

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Go to Bed Angry
Ignore the age-old advice to kiss and make up before bed. Following it is like attempting to keep high tide from destroying a sand castle: a ... more 
Photo by: Photo credit: iStockPhoto.com
Go to Bed Angry
Ignore the age-old advice to kiss and make up before bed. Following it is like attempting to keep high tide from destroying a sand castle: a pointless effort. Research from UC Berkeley has found that fatigue and lack of sleep makes fights worse. Like, can you say grrrrrumpy? I sure can. So go to sleep even if your fight isn't resolved. Table the matter, sleep in separate bedrooms if needed, and promise to talk about it in the morning, when you are both rested.
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Thu, Nov 7, 2013 12:06 PM EST

There was a time in my marriage when arguments felt a lot like attempting to escape the fun house at a carnival after someone has set it on fire. Keep in mind that I've never actually been inside a fun house while it's on fire, but I can imagine: scary, confusing, dark, hot, overwhelming, loud, and panic-inducing. Fighting with my husband used to be just like that. I was scared to voice what was really on my mind, and the words that often tumbled out of my mouth did the opposite of what I intended. Rather than get my point across, I often felt lost in a maze of anger. We talked in circles. I felt out of control, as if I were a puppet and my emotions were the puppeteer. Neither one of us felt heard. Or loved. Or satisfied. No one won. Usually, after the fight ended, we both felt like losers with anger-induced hangovers. Over the years, I've learned many techniques that have allowed me to speak my truth without feeling scared and meek, as well as strategies that have helped me to better connect with my husband so he understands my point of view. Click through for 7 surprising ways to win an argument with your partner! -By Alisa Bowman

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