7 Ways to Fight the Seven-Year Itch

After several years of dating, a big wedding, a couple kids, and regular Saturday nights at Chuck E. Cheese, you've started to feel it. You love your spouse but things are a little stale and frankly, watching TV every night after putting the kids down is getting a little boring.

Don't worry-everyone feels this way. But when the neighbor down the street starts looking a little more attractive or you find yourself flirting with your son's tee ball coach, it's time to address the issue: you have the seven year itch. Here are seven ways to fight it (and avoid doing something you'll regret).

1. Schedule a date night-and stick to it
We know you're busy. But scheduling a weekly or even monthly date night is an important first step to reconnecting with your spouse. Find a regular babysitter if you have kids, put a date on the calendar, and try your hardest to make it happen. Working late, drinks with friends, or exhaustion are not acceptable excuses to reschedule. Trust us, after the first few nights out, you'll be counting down until the next one.

2. Join a gym
Working out regularly is a great way to get out of your funk. In addition to the endorphin high during each workout, you'll be getting out of the house and doing something just for you. Can't find or afford a babysitter for a daily workout? Find a gym that has childcare. Feeling extra motivated? Get a personal trainer and really whip yourself into shape. (Your spouse will love it too!)

3. Limit relationships with members of the opposite sex
Obviously, you can have friends of the opposite sex, but if you're discussing emotional topics or confiding in them instead of your spouse, it's time to shut it down. The person you should be discussing marital issues with is your spouse. The conversations might be tough, but the relationship will come out stronger on the other side.

4. Schedule time for physical intimacy
Yes, we mean schedule sex. It might not be as romantic as a spontaneous roll in the hay, but it's a good idea if your sex life has slowed down. Just like date night, don't let other activities or tiredness get in the way of your scheduled playtime.

5. Really listen to your partner
Instead of just nodding along when your spouse is talking, really pay attention. Make eye contact and engage in the conversation. After seven years, it's easy to half-listen but doing so only wears away at the relationship. Rebuild your foundation by having real conversations like you did when you were dating.

6. Talk about something other than work and the kids
If all your conversations are about is soccer practice or your next deadline, it's no wonder your spouse's eyes start rolling every time you guys chat. Make a concerted effort to talk about something else-new movie releases, a great book you've both just read, even your neighbor's poorly landscaped lawn! Every conversation can't be about logistics and work. There's got to be some fun and laughs too!

7. Shake up your routine
After seven years together, you've undoubtedly fallen into a routine. What you two need is some spontaneity! Stop talking about that ski trip and book it. Instead of ordering pizza, take the kids to try Indian food. Have a glass of wine with dinner! Explore a new TV series together. Buy and wear some new lingerie as a surprise. And when you're really ready for some impromptu fun, drop the kids off at the grandparents for a quick weekend getaway.

Got more ideas how to fight the urge to stray? Tell us!

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