8 Online Habits that Are Total Turn Offs for Guys
When Miley Cyrus recently tweeted out a bunch of sad thoughts on love, it got everyone speculating that her engagement to Liam Hemsworth might be on the rocks. That's never good for a relationship. We asked experts what other online behaviors are turn offs for guys.
By Casey Gueren
1. The Virtual Vent-Fest
Posting status updates about a fight with your guy is not only immature, it's mean. Even if you're being obscure about it-"Guess my expectations are just too high for some people" -come on, everyone knows what's up. Before you know it, friends are commenting with questions like "Uh-uh, trouble in paradise?" You can be sure your BF doesn't appreciate being outed as a "bad boyfriend" on Facebook.
Plus, when you make up, having that post out there, and friends still commenting on it, keeps the spat alive. "By the time all your friends see it, you're already having makeup sex-and that post is just extending the shelf life of your fight," says online dating expert Julie Spira, author of The Perils of Cyber Dating.
2. Friending a Stalkerish Ex
You broke up with this guy, like, years ago...so what's the big deal if he's on your friends list? Well, technically nothing, if you're both truly over each other. But even then, keep in mind that if your ex is all up in your profile all the time, your new man's not going to like it, says dating consultant Jeremy Nicholson, PhD.
3. Getting Too Eager
Changing your relationship status, tagging him in a bunch of photos, or tweeting about being out "with the BF," too soon can be a major turn-off. "One thing I see a lot is women jumping to define the relationship without first talking about it with the guy they're dating," says Dr. Nicholson. "It's a pushy, clingy thing that can scare some guys away. Discuss where you two stand before you put it out there."
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4. Paying Him a Loaded Compliment
If you want to Instagram the roses he brought you with the caption "Wow, I'm lucky!" go right ahead. Guys love that kind of ego stroke. But be careful about who you're really giving credit to in your post, says Nicholson. For instance, something like "Finally convinced him to take me out for sushi!" is a loaded statement, because it gives the impression that he just "gave in," rather than did something awesome. So instead of making him feel appreciated, you're actually making him feel bad.
5. Whipping It Out On a Date
Your dessert looks so freaking amazing, it's just begging to be Instagramed. But unless the guy you're with is a tech junkie too, resist the urge to pull out your phone. "It immediately changes the energy of the date and can make him feel like he's not a priority," says Spira.
6. Marking Your Territory
It might seem cute to tweet him, friend him, and write all over his wall, since that's what you do with your friends. But to men, that can come off as needy and insecure, says Spira, since it sort of looks like you're trying to make sure all of his (female) friends know you exist. Here's a good rule of thumb: If it's something that would be easier to share over a phone call or text (like "Had a great time last night!"), all of his followers do not need to see it.
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7. Connecting Too Much
If you find yourself sharing something important with your followers before your guy, it could mean your social networking is stifling the growth of your real life relationship with him. It sounds extreme, but spending too much time on social media can actually make you value your relationship less. "Part of what you're getting from a relationship is someone to talk to, relate to, and share experiences with," says Nicholson.
8. Pinning Your Future Wedding
You may think it's harmless and fun to pin your dream gown and bridesmaid dresses, but guys see that as a big red flag. "It says you're more interested in being married in general than getting married to someone specific," says Nicholson. We doubt your dude is on Pinterest anyway, so just make sure you don't link it to your other accounts where it might slap him in the face. Then pin away.
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