Q: Why doesn't my boyfriend like to cuddle?
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): Boys don't like to cuddle 'cause it rarely means foreplay. Cuddling is an
end to itself. You cuddle, and that's it. No climax. And half the time you wind up with a kink in your neck or trying to ignore your arm that fell asleep half an hour ago. Have you tried following up your cuddles with a happy ending?
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Straight Married Guy (Frederick): I dunno. He should. Cuddling is nice. What's his problem? Cuddling is the physical manifestation of intimacy. Sometimes guys have issues with that. I don't know why. I guess some guys just want to have a zen experience after sex, and intimacy complicates the feeling of freedom. Try to be cool with no touching after sex for a while. Then sneak in a cuddle in a different setting, in front of the TV, waiting for a flight. Then try working a little cuddle back in after sex.
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Straight single guy (Chris): He's tired, sweaty, or cheating on you. He also just really, really wants to finish watching Top Gear.
Actually, he does like to cuddle, just not when you like to cuddle. Want to lay on his lap while watching a movie on the couch? He'd be fine with that. You get cuddle-time and he gets to enjoy the movie without you talking over it and asking questions about shoes. Want to spoon up with him in the morning before eventually giving him a ----- and sending him off to work with a huge smile on his face and a super-boosted ego? By all means.
Want to cuddle in bed on the night the air conditioner brakes down and the bedroom temperature is something approaching "broil"? Actually, no, he'd rather change places with you so he could be closer to the fan. Want to cuddle at 5 a.m. after maniacal gorilla sex and a facial ending? Well, no. All that gorilla sex takes effort and he is tired and sweaty and feeling like a man. The last thing he wants is to wrap his arms and legs around you and pretend he loves you. He really wants to call his friends to brag about what a slut you are, then smoke a joint and go to sleep.
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