. . . And 7 Things I Really Hate About the Single Life

The other day, I wrote a post about the 7 things I love about being single. And they're all true. But in the spirit of fairness-and so you all don't think I'm this Pollyanna type person who loves going home and rocking out in my empty apartment, here are the things that really, seriously annoy me:

Waking up on top of my computer, mid-YouTube search for old SNL clips starring Tina Fey.
Self-explanatory. When you live by yourself, you can sometimes get seriously-SERIOUSLY-distracted.

Having to deal with apartment issues on my own. This includes the mouse I think is living in my closet. I heard scratching the other night, and since it was 3am and I was exhausted and I watched way too many movies with talking animals as a child, I actually found myself talking to the closet door, trying to reason with it. Please, please please go away, and I'll pretend you were never here. Please? I feel like living with someone would probably inspire me to action.

Going solo to family gatherings. I like my family, but when I visit my parents and sleep in the bed I've had since I was a kid, I feel (and act) like a 13-year-old. When I have someone come with me, I'm reminded that I'm an adult-and I actually enjoy being surrounded by memories of my childhood more.

Not having someone during the day. I have some great friends who I connect with during the work day, but I don't want to involve them in the mundane dramas and problems that make up any 9 to 5 life. I love how in a relationship your partner can really become your champion, knowing the lay of the office almost as well as you do, and not caring if you complain about the same thing all the time.

Sex. Or lack thereof. This is one that's really hard. Obviously, there are things I can do to be proactive about that-and I do!-but the magic wand (which I don't have) or the rabbit (which I do) is no substitute for caring sex from a guy who you love.

Solitude. Sometimes it's a good thing, especially when I'm working, but sometimes-especially when I'm working-I realize I haven't talked to anyone in a 24-hour period. Not being in a relationship forces you to be a little bit more proactive when it comes to socializing, and when I'm working, calling or texting friends can be the first thing that falls by the wayside.

Freaking myself out. The other night, I got a text about midnight from one of my friends: Did you hear about the guy who was killed in his apartment down the block from you? Oh my goodness. I did a quick Google search on the story (which was actually a sad isolated incident involving a spurned lover, I live in a really safe neighborhood!), but that still didn't stop me from turning on all the lights and even looking under the kitchen sink cabinets, in case any intruders were hiding there. I texted this to my friend. Her response? An intruder wouldn't hide under your cabinet, he'd hide under your bed. Not helping.

So, the bottom line is, being single has its ups and downs. Would I like to be in a loving, committed relationship? Of course. But right now, I'm not, so instead of settling-or even actively looking-I'm just dealing with the place I'm in right now. And overall, it's all right!

What about you? The worst thing about being single? I'd love to commiserate!

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