What His Body Language is Really Saying

Observe his postureResearch shows that 70 to 90 percent of our communication is nonverbal. Find out what your date is really telling you by looking at these 11 cues.


1. Observe his posture

Leaning back with his arms crossed in front of him could mean that your date isn't into you-unless you are sitting at a chilly outdoor café and he's cold. His actions should match his words, so watch for verbal and nonverbal consistency. Telling you that he's having a great time while leaning back and looking toward the door or saying "yes" while shaking his head are bad signs.

2. What his smile means

A faux-happy smile ends at the lips, while a genuine one will make the corners of his eyes crinkle into crow's feet, which, according to experts, is one of the hardest things to fake.

3. His nose movement
Flared nostrils indicate increased heart rate, which could mean he's angry, sexually aroused-or both!

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4. Follow his feet

A body points toward where it wants to be going-so if his feet face you, he's all yours. But if they are angled toward the door, he's mentally on his way out.

How he positions his hands5. How he positions his hands
Palms up on the table is a sign of relaxed, open interest-but hidden under the table are a sign of discomfort. Either he's hiding something, or very nervous.

6. Stroking his chin
People often stroke their chin during the decision-making process, so he's probably pondering something.

7. Reaching his arms for you
We naturally reach toward things we like, so an arm around you or a hand touching you are very good signs, while arms clasped behind the back signal, "Don't come any closer."

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8. The position of his legs
If his legs are splayed out, he's confident and trying to claim his territory. If they are crossed, notice which leg is on top: a leading leg pointing toward you means he's trying to get closer, but legs crossed the other way are a subconscious play for space.

9. The eyes have it
Looking toward the ears indicates that someone is remembering a sound, while looking up and to the left means someone is remembering something. Narrowing eyes is a sign of anger.
We constantly hear that liars avert their eyes, but actually the opposite is true. Because they know that eye contact is important, liars will often stare you down to overcompensate.

10. Sitting still
Rubbing the neck, or touching the eyes, earlobes, nose, or lower face are all soothing gestures, which probably mean that your date is uncomfortable.
Someone who is trying to mislead you will sometimes try to take you on a guilt trip, answer a question with a question, or offer way too many details.

11. Keep your body in sync with his
Keep your body language open and relaxed-simply mirroring them by leaning forward at the same time or picking up your glass at the same time will make your date subconsciously feel that you are in sync. There is a reason why con artists, car salesmen, and serious flirts have perfected this technique-it works!

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