Bring Sexy Back into Your Relationship

by NoGamesLove Dating Coach Laurel House

Just because your relationship is no longer fulfilling, feels stale, lacks the luster and excitement that it once was bubbling over with, or even if you feel like you and your partner simply aren't connecting or have lost that attraction that once glued your bodies together, it doesn't mean it's over. It might need a jumpstart.

One of the best ways to jumpstart a relationship is by adding a little extra spice to the mix. When I say spice, I mean sexiness, eroticism, get a little dirty, let your guard down, and have fun! If 50 Shades of Grey shows us anything, it's that men aren't the only one who fantasize about being naughty. Taking a nod from the book and living some of those erotic activities could give your relationship the little extra something it needs. So where do you start?

-Get a room.

-Go to a hotel where you can drop your guard, be a little vulnerable, and dabble in the erotic.

-Set an intention for the trip with your partner to ensure that you are on the same page. If changes come up, communicate them and make decisions together that you are both comfortable with.

-This is the time to bring out your sexy lingerie and dresses that make you feel super sexy.

-Give yourself permission to get a little wild with your guy… without judgment.

-Have an open mind and your body and heart will follow.

While a local hotel very well could do the trick, completely escaping your environment is often a better way to fully place yourself in that uninhibited headspace and La Plage at Tom Beach in St Barth's is the ideal destination for this sort of a slightly hedonistic retreat.

The goal is to enliven that side of you that you have for some reason subdued. If you can tap into it on your own- fantastic! But driving a little inspiration from an innately sensual environment can help.

IMAGINE THIS:
-A luxury hotel with a canopy bed overlooking the ocean

-A cirque du soliel-esque cabaret style dinner party called I Love Fridays where sensual but not overtly sexual pole dancers gracefully swing from the pole in the center of the room

-A magician that keeps you on your toes with table side tricks throughout the evening

-A Fire dancer who heats things up by swinging flaming balls of fire around his body

-Sinfully good cocktails like the "Porn Star" to whet your appetite.

-Exquisite French/Mediterranean Food that is almost too much good.

-The next afternoon you indulge in the Bikini Brunch where bikini-clad waitresses and model-esque waiters serve fish and lobster fresh caught from the shores in front of the hotel.

-Digest during a deeply calming massage on your private patio where the music is the sound of the waves

-Once in a mind-lubricated state of bliss, you can choose to stroll down the beach wearing a teeny bikini, or go full European style and free yourself by going topless.

The sights, sounds, feelings, and emotional release will likely lend themselves to a very liberated, mind/body connecting vacation with your sweetheart, giving that extra oomph to your relationship that you so desperately desired.

xx Laurel

Laurel House is an international Dating and Relationship Coach and Expert, MTV's MADE "It Girl" Coach, 4x published Lifestyle Author, and a go-to Expert on E! News. She recently sold her 5th book "Screwing The Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love," which will be released in December 2014 with Running Press. With over 12 million views on YouTube, Laurel has created a platform to deliver dating and healthy lifestyle tips to the masses. Laurel is a featured expert in Marni Battista's "Find Love Now" coaching program. Her dating tips appear on CupidsPulse.com, YourTango.com, SheKnows, and Giuliana Rancic's FabFitFun.com. Because of her edgy, honest, and wide-ranging advice, she is often referred to as the modern-day Ann Landers.