How to Choose Between Two Guys

So many men, so little time...So many men, so little time...We know a girl as cool as you has options when it comes to dating. And if you're torn between two hotties at once a la The Bachelorette, at some point, you have to pick one. Bethany Marshall, PhD, author of Deal Breakers tells us how to date two guys at once-and how to finally pick one.

By Korin Miller

Keep It to Yourself
Until a guy says he wants to be exclusive (and you feel the same way), you have the right to play the field. For all you know, he's doing the same thing. Until you have The Talk, there's no reason to tell him you're seeing someone else.

Be a Little Cagey
In order to make a good decision, you need to be able to do your own thing. So don't tell either guy where you are all the time. If they're clued in to what you're doing 24/7, it's going to be harder for you to have the space you need to decide on one.

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Lay Off Social Media
Posting pics of your cool weekend date on Facebook is great and all…until the other guy you're dating sees the evidence that he's not the only one in your life. Ditto for tweeting about fun plans. It's best to lay low online until you've settled on one dude. Also: Set a filter on your Facebook page so that you have to approve photo tags. You don't want unauthorized pics of you with one guy popping up.

Don't Lie
A) You'll probably feel like crap about it, and B) you'll might have trouble keeping track of everything. So, if Guy No. 1 asks what you did on Saturday and you spent it with Guy No. 2, just say you hung out with a friend. Technically, it's true.

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...And Don't Supply
Had a great time tubing with Guy No. 1? Don't put yourself in a bad situation by mentioning the amazing experience you had to Guy No. 2. He'll want details, and it will be hard to keep the other guy out of the story without looking suspicious.

Look for Similarities
You'll know when you need to make a decision-one guy or both will want to up the frequency of how often you see each other, or you'll start getting stressed by the whole thing. When that happens, sit down and think about who makes you feel the most secure in their feelings for you, and who seems to be on the same page as you.

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Don't Give an Explanation
When you finally make a choice, break it off with the other guy without a huge, drawn-out explanation. Just say, "I've really enjoyed spending time with you, but I think the relationship has run its course." You don't have to explain your every move or thought process.

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