Dear Whys Guy: “How Can I Help My Husband Quit His Pot Habit?”

By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK

DEAR WHYS GUY:

"I'm 22 and have been married for three years. My husband's and my relationship is usually good, except for one issue: He smokes pot. I would be fine if it was a weekend wind-down activity, but he smokes every day, twice a day, and claims that it's for spiritual reasons. He's been to rehab seven times for this, and has had a couple of mental breakdowns from his usage, which leads to him promising to never use it again, and then relapsing six months later. How do I handle somebody who believes that his behavior is untouchable, and that it's 'his life', and therefore I get no say?"

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DEAR REDBOOK READER:

Oh dear. First of all, I'm not a professional therapist, and it sounds like you really want to talk to someone about this, and from the sound of it, that person should be a professional therapist. Secondly, I'm not a theology expert or very knowledgeable about spirituality, so I can't referee. What I do know is that your faith, whatever it maybe, shouldn't include something that causes you this kind of worry.

When you agree to share a life with someone, it means you get to have a say in his life and his decisions because they affect you. I would urge you and your husband to get counseling. Right now.

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