Dear Whys Guy: "Can I Still Sleep With Him While We're on a Break?"

By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK


My boyfriend and I are taking a break. My question is, should I have make out with my boyfriend or have sex with him even though we are not exactly official, or should I give him the space he wants?

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The guy in me wants to say yes. The decent person in me says no, no, no. If you keep giving it up with no expectation of commitment, then he won't feel obligated to ever be committed to you again, and it will be very hard to reestablish those boundaries. You're basically turning yourself and the relationship into a booty call thing. However, if you know the relationship is going south and you're just kinda horny, then, by all means, go for it. In short, don't try to win him back with sex, but if you want to have sex with the man for purely physical reasons and you don't really care about rebuilding, then go for it.

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Need help decoding odd male behavior? Redbook columnist Aaron Traister, who lives in Philadelphia with his wife and two kids, is our resident male who is happy to answer any questions you might have about the mind of a man. Either leave your questions in the comments or email him at redbook@hearst.comwith Whys Guy in the subject. Letters, emails, and comments may be edited for clarity and length.

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