Dear Whys Guy: “Why Won’t He Make a Move?"
By Aaron Traister, REDBOOK
DEAR WHYS GUY:
I've been spending time with an old friend for the past three weeks. We've done stuff during the day, gone out to dinner, even had friends over for dinner. And we've spent two nights together, just holding each other. He constantly hugs me, kisses me, texts me, and calls me. But I've never shared a bed with a man and not had anything...happen. Is he interested in me, or is this a different kind of relationship?
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DEAR REDBOOK READER:
"Two nights together just holding each other." Yes, I would say you are involved in a "different kind of relationship." Perhaps he has religious beliefs that prevent him from fornicating out of wedlock (like the ones I learned about last week while I was up watching Youthquake and puking-haven't missed an episode since). Perhaps he was maimed in a Garden Weasel accident and he's worried about showing you his misshapen manhood. Perhaps he, uh, is some sort of scam artist and you are unwittingly involved in a long con. Maybe he's just very sensitive and highly attuned to your feelings.
I'm at loss with this one. I suggest, if it ain't bothering you, roll with it and see where he's headed with this "just holding" thing. Or, hypothetically speaking, of course, you could just actually talk to him about it.
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