Did You Marry A Grownup?

What I respect the most about Rex is there's no doubt he's a man. His work ethic, his devotion to his kids, his commitment to me... it's more than appealing. Like the way he looks in his tie and pressed pants every day - it's downright sexy. He's a grownup.

Of course, what I admire the most about my husband is the same thing that sometimes frustrates me. He is such a creature of habit. Sure, it's awesome when it comes to paying the bills or showing up to school functions on time. But some Saturdays, when I'd rather go to the beach, his "must mow the lawn... must get a haircut" routine gets old. I get frustrated. Why are other people dashing off to San Francisco for last minute summer holidays while we're doing the same old thing day in/day out? (And yes, I know I sound like a brat. Even a grown up like me with all the kids and responsibilities of Queen of Lego Removal/Ponytail Putter-Upper/Stepped on another rabbit Pellet Lucky Me sometimes misses the good old days of bonsai Vegas trips and lazy weekends at the Upham.)

When I get complainy I quickly give myself a good, well, bitchslap and remind myself of all the things we do have. Rex's wonderful points far outweigh his negative ones. (Can't always say the same for me! LOL. Okay, fine, I will. I'm fabulous, and so are you all!)

Just because my computer guru is not one to run off to a last minute art exhibit doesn't mean I can't. He's certainly not holding a knife to my neck. (Though he is handing me a lot of trash bags these days. You all go and vacation in Mexico. We're having second honeymoons in Big Bear clearing more crap than an episode of Hoarders. While I can do it with a smile, be happy. If I do it in a bikini with a margarita, call the cops.)

The movie, Grownups, premiered this weekend. So far, the reviews aren't so great. It's not like I was going to shell out $12.00 to see overweight men tell fart jokes. (I have a skinny one at home that will do that for free.) But the premise of the movie is an interesting one. In getting married and becoming adults, did we lose touch with our joy and youth?

What about you? Do you have fun with your spouse? Are you still a kid? Or have you morphed into Mr. and Mrs. Serious Pants who is all about the kids and the perfect little spotless house.

As for me? I go back and forth. If I could, I probably wouldn't change my life much. (Other than a little extra income for housecleaning and vacations.) But I would like a little more laughs. I DO get serious sometimes. It's the perfectionist in me. It's so, um, stupid!

Look out, summer, smiles are a-coming! (Emphasis on that last word, too, since it's a sex column. More later on that!)

* Photo taken on New Years 11 years ago! OMG I can't believe it's been that long. And shut up about the vintage cat eyes glasses. They were, dare I say it, FUN!


Posted by Andrea Frazer


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