Do Men Imagine Sex with Every Woman They Meet?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com's guy friends. This week they answer the following: "Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he'd want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his masturbatory fantasies?"

Straight Married Guy (David Felsen): Thanks for your question, now I feel like a total pig! I can't speak for every guy, but this happily married man is constantly making subconscious Yay or Nay sexy-time assessments based solely on appearances. Within milliseconds of meeting or seeing someone, I either feel it or not. I could be in the middle of a mugging, and if the woman beating me up is cute, she gets a green light. I should also say that I'm a repressed white boy, and would never give a conscious signal I was attracted, because that's just rude when you're with your wife. Are some of them lucky enough to make it into my spanktheon? Rarely, and the runs are limited. That particular hall of glory is reserved for former girlfriends, my wife, and Jessica Rabbit.

Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): Yes. 100% yes. Every human creature that falls within your sexuality spectrum is instantly sized up as a potential slap-and-tickle. Sometimes it is only for the morbid curiosity factor, i.e. the geriatric, your second cousin, etc. But it absolutely happens. Like it or not, that means you are currently starring in someone's five-finger-matinee. And there is simply no divide on gay and straight to this question. Men are men. If we find you remotely sexually appealing, you probably will have at least a walk-on part in some later fantasy.

Straight Single Guy (Tim): Yes, every time we see a woman who is remotely attractive, some sort of sexual thought goes through our head. We immediately know whether or not we would sleep with that woman and most of the time picture doing so, if even for a second. That being said, there are way too many beautiful women out there to incorporate them all into our fantasies. It would be chaos! We like to focus on two or three, which oddly enough don't tend to change that often. Occasionally a random stranger we saw that day will make a guest appearance, but if we were to get off over every hot girl we saw, we'd never leave the house.

Our "wise guys" are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week's Straight Married Guy is David Felsen, a comedian and writer, our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter, and our Single Straight Guy is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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