Does Your Relationship Past Reflect Your Relationship Future?
By Kelli Cooper for BounceBack.com
We can make our love lives whatever we want them to be. Right? Most of us have a hard time truly believing this. This is due to our faulty programming that has filled our minds with heaps of limiting beliefs. We look at our past relationship experience and use our failures and horrible exes as a framework for determining our future relationship successes. This is a very dangerous thing to do, because nothing that happened in the past holds any relevance to what is possible moving forward.
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The caveat is that you must decide this to be so. You must firmly believe that your relationship past does not, cannot predict your relationship future.
Our minds are very powerful in shaping our reality and chances are, if your past relationship endeavors have failed or bad habits and decisions have contributed to your lack of previous success in love, perhaps your mind was not right. That is the beauty of it all - if you change how you think and how you view yourself, you can change anything you want - including relationships!
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The past does not matter. It does not matter what failures you experienced. It does not matter what mistakes you made. It does not matter if every relationship you have had up until this point has failed. The root of all of these issues lies within you and it is under your complete power to shape the life you truly want.
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In moving forward with your plans for getting the type of relationship you want, you must allow yourself to wipe the love-slate clean. Own your role in creating your past experiences, but do not beat yourself up too badly. Acknowledge it and then let it go; vow to do things differently this time and forget the past breakups, disappointments and failures. Know that outside circumstances do not dictate your life, your choices do. And your choices start from within.
Choose the type of love life you want to experience from this point forward and make choices that move you towards it. Do not look back. Today is a fresh start.
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