My Ex Won't Leave Me Alone

By Karen Karbo, REDBOOK

Q. An old boyfriend just won't let go: He constantly posts things on my Facebook page and RSVPs to events that I'm going to. He even relocated to be closer to me! Isn't this borderline harassment? -A.M., 43, FLORIDA

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A. I'm definitely concerned for you. If your ex's actions become threatening or make you fearful, you may be able to get some kind of protective order, according to the Stalking Resource Center. Bottom line: You can't control his behavior, but you can control yours. For advice on how to de-friend and distance yourself from him without escalating the problem, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. They can connect you with a smart, experienced advocate.

Advice guru Karen Karbo is a mom, a teacher, and the author of the new book How Georgia Became O'Keeffe.

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Do you need life advice? Send questions about perplexing friends, family, mates, colleagues, and anyone else to karenkarbo@redbookmag.com , and include your initials, age, and state. Letters may be edited for clarity and length.

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