Is Forcing Monogamy the Right Way to Achieve Trust?
By Erin Miller for BounceBack.com
As great as relationships can be to experience, one danger people in relationships can face is a loss in a sense of direction with the self. When there is a desire to gain perspective, it's common to seek counsel from a romantic partner, but if the relationship goes sour or if there is a difference of opinion, it's challenging to remain grounded when entwined with someone else. Monogamy can be a great result of a deep connection, but it can be a poor strategy to achieve that love and trust.
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Here is the challenge: how can you dive deeply into a relationship with someone else, while continuing to honor yourself and evolve your consciousness?
Monogamy should be a goal that results of a deeper desire to connect and not an expectation to live up to. Having a commitment to someone isn't a bad thing, but too many times relationships are made out of choices that come from repression or false ideals about love. People latch onto sexual exclusivity hoping it will fulfill their innermost desires.
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When it comes to dating, people often seek to find "the one" in practically every person they have a frivolous connection with. That is why many singles frequently say, "Dating is so hard, why can't I just find a decent person already?" Reason is, they are seeking a deeper connection in vain while creating false expectations for something that should be temporary, fun and carefree. Why waste so much energy being disappointed in someone who doesn't play a significant role in your life?
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Better strategies for achieving a deeper connection are speaking your truth to yourself and another at all times, focusing on connection rather than emotional release and avoiding saying only the things that people want to hear. By implementing these strategies, you can achieve a deeper level of connection.
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Have you ever tried to force a relationship into monogamy for the wrong reasons or with the wrong person?
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