How to Give Your Guy a Tantric Massage

Love foreplay (who doesn't, right)? Take it to the next level by giving your guy a steamy tantric massage. This sexy sequence, designed by Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, is the perfect way to get his blood pumping-and yours.

By Korin Miller

Warm Up His Traps
People tend to have a lot of tightness in this muscle, which is located between the shoulder blades. Loosen his by putting some massage oil or lotion at the base of his spine. Cross your thumbs and slide them up the spine to the point between the shoulder blades. Then use your thumbs to massage his upper back and release the tension that's stored there.

Get His Juices Flowing
Lightly tap the small of his back with the edges of your hands. This stimulates erotic energy, and the nerve impulses will go right to the genitals.

Use Your Lips
Wipe off any excess oil or lotion from his bod. Then, take a deep breath, and run your lips from the base of his spine to the nape of his neck, with one lip on each side of the spine (so your lips are essentially straddling his backbone). Exhale slowly as you move your lips up his back.

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Create Friction
Using your hands, work your way up his back from the base of his spine to the nape of his neck. Go slowly and use your dominant hand (so if you're a righty, use that hand). This is a gentle and repeated up and down motion with the heel of your hand, on a small section at a time, using dry friction to generate heat.

Make It Hotter
Keep the dry friction rub going by stepping up the speed and moving it between his shoulder blades. This ups his state of relaxation and also adds more heat to his bod.

Warm Up His Package
Straddle your man and face his feet. Start at his ankle and use your thumb and forefinger to apply pressure on either side of his tendon as you work up his leg (but don't apply pressure to the tendon itself). Why his ankle? There's a pressure point along the tendon that's said to stimulate the prostate in men and to connect to his genitals. Your guy might notice a tingling in his leg. This is a sign you're near the spot. He should eventually feel it down there.

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Use Your Bod
Here comes the super-sexy part: Get naked (if you're not already), and use your bod to massage your man. To do it, rub massage oil or lotion on yourself-the more, the better-and slide your front all over the back side of his body (Warning: You might want to lay a towel down underneath him first). Then, have him flip over and repeat, but don't let him enter you.

Stimulate His Nipples
This erogenous zone is usually neglected in men. While you're laying on top of him, use your mouth to lick and suck on his nipples. It should feel really good to him-and odds are he won't be able to hold off on sex any longer.


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