How Do You Know If He's The One?

copyright torley flickrcopyright torley flickrI knew my husband was "the one" the first time we hung out together. We were just friends, but he was definitely the marrying kind: responsible, caring, loving, and kind.

But I wasn't ready to get married, so we stayed friends for 15 years. He moved in with another woman, I moved to Africa for 3 years, and we lost touch. When I moved back to Canada, I called him up and presto! We got married a few months later. (His relationship with the other woman had ended - but not because of me!).

How do you know when a guy is "the one" for you? I wrote an article about finding a man - The Best Way to Find a Boyfriend - Look Inward First - but I haven't written anything on knowing if he's right for you.

Here are a couple ways to know if he's the "to have and hold" type...

Listen to your gut instincts. You know when things just don't feel right in a relationship. If he doesn't respect or love you, you'll know it. You may ignore bad behavior because you really want to be in a relationship, but you'll know that he's a jerk. Your gut doesn't lie.

Understand that "What you see, is what you get." He's not gonna change! If he'd rather spend his money on junk, rather spend his time with his buddies, rather ignore your wishes to do whatever he wants -- don't expect him to suddenly start treating you the way you deserve.

It takes courage and strength to walk away from a man you know isn't right for you. If you're in a relationship that makes you feel bad about yourself, read When You Feel Insecure and Unsure in Your Relationship - 5 Solutions.

What do you think -- how did you know your guy is for you?

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen a full-time writer and blogger; she created the "Quips and Tips" blogs: