How to Find and Impress the "Perfect" Man?

Statistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) And despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes. Males are hardwired to impress women. Watch the elaborate dances some birds go through to win over a female -- puffing up their chests and using their feathers to exaggerate how big they are. Human males are no different. They're going to tell you they're richer, stronger, taller, and more important than the next guy to win your affections.

That said, our equal opportunity world has skewed the course somewhat. The days of women sitting back, waiting to be picked up aren't as common. Women can now go on the offensive. They can go on the prowl to pick up a guy if they desire. And with these turned tables, it's become more important for women to impress men.

This new need for women to become proactive when picking up guys increases the chance that you might exaggerate, or fudge certain details to land your man. Don't try to be like us, ladies. Stay true to who you are and don't let the game turn you into an ugly player.

Here are some key factors to remember:

Don't misrepresent yourself to catch him. Don't say things that aren't true. If you tell him that you're up for threesomes with another girl and you don't mean it, he's going to be mightily disappointed. Trust me, he is.

Don't pretend to be someone else. I don't understand this one and I've seen it a lot. A girl will pretend to be a harddrinking, party girl. She'll play fast and loose and will portray herself just like Samantha from Sex and the City. A guy is going to latch on to this kind of personality and expect it all the time, trust me. While there's nothing wrong if that's really your personality -- if it's not, you're just lying to him. No one likes to discover his sex kitten is in fact a quiet cat that likes to sleep eighteen hours a day.

Don't lead him on. As soon as he gets a whiff that you're into him, the gears in his head are going to start turning and his imagination is going to kick in. It might seem like you're being kind by playing into his advances, but in fact you're being cruel. If you're not interested, it's better to shoot him down than play up to him.

Don't say anything that is wildly untrue. Telling him that the character of Sydney Bristow from Alias is based on you and your counterespionage exploits is not only ridiculous, it's embarrassing. Even a minor exaggeration will get you into trouble. Saying you never diet because you're naturally thin will cause an issue when he finds your diet pills in the medicine cabinet. He won't really care that you diet to look good; he will care that you lied to him. Remember, a first encounter is the time he'll be listening most. He will remember later that you told him you were a beach volleyball champion with a vast collection of micro bikinis. Again, trust me....

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