Is It Okay to Be Best Friends with Your Man?
Courteney Cox and David Arquette's marriage may have been totally different than that of Christina Aguilera and Jordan Bratman. But their breakups have one big thing in common. Both Hollywood pairs, who announced their splits last week, seemed to have an issue with their roles in the relationship.
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Arquette recently revealed that Cox was fed up and said to him, "I don't wanna be your mother anymore." And a source told one tabloid that "over the last six months, it became clear [Aguilera and Bratman] were more like friends than husband and wife."
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Both of these situations can spell doom for your relationship, according to Megan Fleming, PhD, a clinical psychologist who works with couples. "When you get into that role of mothering of someone, it can be very challenging to keep it hot," she explains. Therefore, people may find it hard to switch off between the two roles-caretaker and romantic partner. The possible outcome? Your sex life dwindles and you don't find yourself attracted to each other.
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Being good friends with your guy, on the other hand, can be fantastic, said Fleming. But she adds that it can be bad news for your twosome if your boyfriend or husband is your only close friend. "If you don't have any other people you can go to for support, you're setting yourself up for disappointment."
Do you think this is true? How do you deal with roles in your romantic relationships?
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