Is It Possible to NOT Know When You're Flirting?

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By GalTimerDee Wiese

Okay, so I have a close-knit group of friends - both guys and girls.

People I've known from high school up to varsity who all seem to have a general sense of the kind of person I am.

You know, the friendly weirdo who can have 10 minuet conversations with the old grandma in the queue or the not-so-attractive nerdy guy standing lonesome at a party. Generally, I'd consider myself just a people person - I like getting to know people!

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But during a recent conversation, my friends made an assumption that sorta disturbed me - while my girlfriends all defended my friendliness as part of my quirk, my guy friends all chose to label it as over-friendliness..... as in I want a man's you-know-what if I compliment his hair. Yip. They called me a FLIRT or more accurately a TEASE.

But what makes a girl a FLIRT? All my actions were subconscious, only when they were pointed out did I start to realize that maybe.. JUST MAYBE... guys were getting the wrong idea - and trust me, it's actually pretty crazy!

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So here's WHAT TO DO IF YOU DON'T WANT BE LABELED A FLIRT/TEASE:

  1. Never smile. I'm like a clown in that sense; it's a reflex. But apparently that's the first cue-to-action (CTA) a chump looks for.

  2. Don't ask a dude what he does, where he lives or what high school he went to. Any inquiries into his personal life means you're fishing him out (and NOT because you dislike awkward silences whilst you're left talking to your friend's bf's friend while they go make out in the loo.)

  3. If a dude shares the same taste as you whether it's music or movies or hobbies - DON'T show enthusiasm (even if he also has a koki obsession like you do!) I mean it - don't you dare even lift your eyebrow. Another CTA homie, BOOM!

  4. Never hug your male friends. "Oh what's that? Did she just try to squeeze my ass there without me noticing?" Uhhh, no dude, that's the dude behind you.

  5. Avoid the spacing-out stare. A male friend actually told me I looked at him with so much lust in my eyes, there was no denying I wanted him as much as he wanted me... at that point in time I was busy wondering what a pizza-burger would taste like. Point is, don't blank out - some guys can mistake that "emptiness" in your eyes for an Edward Cullen I-wanna-eat-you-baby stare. Yeah, I know.

  6. Don't reply to smses, facebook messages or tweets. I've even started calling peeps Bro and Broda to rid myself of this flirtatious demeanour. Alas, it probably turns them on more. Maybe I should start calling my guy friends Uncle. Pffft.

I can't think of any more, but the point I was trying to make....... hey what was my point again?

Ah - the point was this - It's like you need to be bitchy or else you may be giving off CTA's.

I will never understand.

What do you think?

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