Is there anything wrong with snooping?

Okay, I'll admit it, I'm a snooper. I snoop in my kids email, cell phone logs, computer history, rooms and backpacks, and occasionally take a peek into my husband's wallet and cellphone call/text log. True, I work as a professional investigator, but I don't think that has anything to do with it. I think I snoop because I have a constant need to be on top of every situation all the time. With my kids, I simply like to monitor their friends, conversations, and activities so that I won't have too many surprises down the road. With my husband, however, it's a whole nother ballgame.

The truth of the matter is I've been the victim of infidelity in the past and don't EVER want to be blindsided like that again. Does that give me a license to snoop hence forth and forever more? Sure it does. In my opinion, once someone betrays trust in a relationship, they forfeit their right to a blanket expectation of privacy. Now, I'm not suggesting that it's okay to do a complete cavity search every day upon his arrival home from work, but I do believe that I am entitled to an occasional sneak peek into the coat pocket every now and again. Perhaps this is a testament to my inability to forgive or move past prior transgressions, or maybe I just need reassurance from time to time that everything is cool on the home front. But for whatever reason… I am a snooper.

So my question is, is it wrong to snoop, especially when there is no outward indication that something is wrong? Is snooping a sign of insecurity or immaturity, or do spouses/parents have an incontestable right to look anywhere, anytime they want to, as long as they're prepared to handle what they find?

I'd appreciate opinions from both snoopers and non-snoopers alike.

Danine Manette

Ultimate Betrayal