It's Complicated: My Fiance Embarrasses Me
By Karen Karbo, REDBOOK
Q:
My fiancé and I have a 6-month-old son and are expecting again. We have a good relationship, but he doesn't have any manners! He thinks passing gas and belching is funny. He invites himself to things, constantly borrows my car and returns it without gas, and doesn't think twice about eating the last piece of whatever. I don't want my kids to grow up thinking his behavior is okay. How can I get him to change? -M.H., 24, Pennsylvania
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A:: I'm assuming you've already tried the obvious: telling him you don't like these habits and asking him to shape up. So it sounds like it's time to call in the big guns and involve your kids. Share your feelings with him about the importance of raising them to have manners. We all want to be good role models for our children. And when it comes to your car, don't give him the keys until he promises to return it with at least the amount of gas he used. Perhaps when he sees that his thoughtlessness has consequences, he'll begin to change.
Advice guru Karen Karbo is a mom, a teacher, and the author of the new book How Georgia Became O'Keeffe.
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