Lackluster Sex Life? Boost Your Sexy Time With The Chinese Five-Element System

Intent.com

In the beginning, when love is new, romance, courting and conquest are aphrodisiacs, stimulants that increase our appetite for sexual union. Eventually the chase ends, hearts are won, and lifetime pledges are made. The happy couple says "I do," strolls off into the sunset together, destined to be lovers forever.

So what happens? The newness fades, the passion flees. Where does it go? Does it get mortgaged along with the house? Disposed with the diapers?

Related Article: 9 Ways To Reignite Your Romantic Passion In Your Long-Term Relationship

Years ago, Mary, age 49, shyly told her family doctor that she had lost interest in having sex with her husband. She was told this was a natural event, that women eventually lose interest and that's the way it is. For some women, she was told, it comes earlier. Today, Mary might be offered testosterone patches to fire up her lagging libido.

Martin, age 59, is having erectile difficulties. Viagra® to the rescue.

Times may have changed, but is it really just a story of diminishing hormones and loss of blood flow? The popularity of these new biologically-based treatments attest to their effectiveness as sexual aids. Yet we continue to yearn for the fulfillment of a deeper intimacy. Reviving the mechanics of our sex life may help, but it does not fully address the hunger in our hearts.

Related Article: Opening Ourselves To The Topic Of Sex

We desire even more than the wonderful climax of sexual release. We crave a connection with our partner's soul. We ache to embrace a love that lights up our eyes, that enlivens our very being.

More than one divorcee has stated, "the sex was great, but there was no intimacy." Without intimacy, sex is not lovemaking. Without lovemaking, hearts are empty.

Laura, married 22 years, loves her husband immensely. Therefore, she has "sex" with him at least once a week, because he has "needs" that must be met. Yet each time, when it is over, she experiences loneliness and loss. Something is missing.

Related Article: Do Women Prefer Chocolate Over Sex?

A Chinese saying tells us that "young love is from earth; mature love from heaven." Could it be that our bodies are trying to tell us something as they slow down and cool off? Could it be that it is not our biology which needs assistance, but our spiritual self?

If we look at relationships from a perspective of the Chinese five-element system, we can gain some insight and direction. In this ancient understanding of the cosmos, the elements that describe all the phases of creation are wood, fire, earth, metal and water. Each influences the next, in a nourishing cycle of harmonious development.

CONTINUE READING ON INTENT.COM