What You Can Learn About Being Sexy From…

There's no lingerie on this list. We went to the real experts of romance to find the moves that'll make your man wanting more…and more. By Anna Davies, REDBOOK.

The sculptor: Master your moves
There's a reason so many world-famous portraits focus on a nude woman's back - it's extremely erotic. "A slight curve of the spine is visually mind-blowing," says Pablo Solomon, an artist and sculptor. Allow your guy to put on your necklace as you bend forward slightly, exaggerate your movements as you pick your purse up off of the floor, and shrug off your jacket so he can see your bare shoulder. "The more you're aware of your movements, the more present you are in your body," says Solomon. So give him a bit of a show - and know he'll be dying for more once you head home.

The marriage coach: Say yes (in and outside the bedroom)
"I always tell my patients to eliminate the word 'no' from their vocabulary with each other, unless their partner is requesting something demeaning, abusive, or illegal," says marriage and family coach John Wilder. To experiment, try it on your guy for a day without cluing him in to what you're actually doing. You'll find yourself surprised by how many times you automatically say 'no' without thinking about it. "The word 'no' conveys the idea that your partner's attitudes and desires aren't important to you," says Wilder. "When you say 'yes,' you set up an open environment where your partner will respond in kind to your requests." Like, say, an entire afternoon snuggling on the couch watching Ryan Gosling movies…

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The wardrobe stylist: Keep it simple

Save your new wide-legged pants for girls night and go for the old faithful little black dress on date night - he'll thank you for it. "Men want to see the shape of your body, confidence, and natural beauty," says Hannah Asbaugh, a Chicago-based wardrobe stylist. Her essentials for a date night to remember: Nude heels to elongate your legs, a v-neck top because the v lengthens your neck, making your torso appear smaller, and anything that accentuates your curves. "I always recommend clients belt the smallest part of the waist to automatically achieve a flattering hourglass shape."

The gym rat: Pull your weight

Always heading toward the elliptical while your guy goes down to the weight room? You may be missing a key opportunity for seduction. Shari Alexander, a communication specialist from Los Angeles, found that strong equaled sexy when she couldn't get through her workout without receiving a compliment from a buff stranger. "Every time I do chin-ups at the gym, a ripped guy always ends up stopping by my spot and telling me how badass it is that a girl is doing that," she says. Make it work with your guy by letting him sneak a peek at your arm-toning routine - or tell him you'll take the grocery bags from the car to the house this time.

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The former Playboy model: Enjoy your assets
They say, "if you've got it, flaunt it," and Stephanie Adams, a former Playboy model and Miss November 1992, knows it. "I had a hard time after I had a baby, because I couldn't lose the weight easily," she says. "But then I realized: I suddenly had full breasts and a curvier bottom. I decided to make the most of them, dressing in clothes that were flattering and comfortable, and walking proudly, instead of trying to hide." Sure, posing nude in a national magazine may have made Adams a tad more comfortable with her bod than the average woman, but tweaking your perspective and enjoying your curves is a whole lot easier than working tirelessly to change them.

The boudoir photographer: Play the part
False eyelashes, sky-high heels, and red lipstick may seem overdone. But that's the entire point, says Natalie Kita, a photographer and makeup artist at Get Shot Naked, a boudoir photography studio in Delaware. "We get so stuck in a routine and in seeing ourselves in the same way that it can feel disconcerting or out of character to dress up. But remember that what looks over-the-top in the bathroom mirror will be jaw-dropping when you're meeting your husband at a candlelit lounge for a drink." So vamp it up and show it off. Nervous with a mascara wand? Next date-night, tell your guy you'll meet him there, and give yourself an hour to hit a makeup counter where an expert can bring you from everyday to "oh, wow!"

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The erotica author: Use the right words
Surprisingly sexy statements are the ones that don't have words that would make a grandmother blush. "Start a sentence - or a text - with 'remember the time when we…'" suggests Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor of Irresistible: Erotic Romance for Couples. Not only are you communicating that he's very much on your mind, but by keeping it subtle, you're allowing his own imagination to fill in the blank - and keep you on his mind all day long.

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