Is “I Love You, But…” Always a Dealbreaker?
Dear Em & Lo,
What do I do when a guy says he loves me, but he won't commit to being my boyfriend? Does he really love me?
- Miss Interpreted
Dear M.I.,
Here's your short answer: Run away! No, he doesn't really love you!
Here's your long answer: Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! Run away! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you! No, he doesn't really love you!
Okay, seriously, we can think of maybe a handful of reasons why somebody may really actually honestly love you but be unable to commit to being your boyfriend:
1. He's already taken. In which case, like, we said: Run away!
2. He loves you like a sister. In which case: Run away! Because you'll never get out of the sister zone.
3. He's gay and loves you like a beard. (Er, do we even need to say it?)
4. He's in the C.I.A.
5. He's in jail.
More likely, however, that he just wants to get into your pants, and he thinks that the sex will be better - or at least, more available to him - if he tells you he loves you. Love is complicated, sure, but it's not that complicated.
Love ya!
Em & Lo
