Is it Love - or Lust - at First Sight?
By Alysia Stern for BounceBack.com
Love at first sight is a way of summing up the physical and emotional attraction two people have for each other within their first meeting. Love is an extremely strong emotion, sometimes beyond human control. And when you are truly in love you will know it. There have been psychological and scientifically engaging studies about the love at first sight theory. Does it really exist? Or is it just lust and sexual attraction that gives you those butterflies inside?
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Appearance does matter. That is all one sees when it's the case of love at first sight. Something must catch your attention. Maybe it will be a smile, a physique or those bright blue eyes. The mood also plays an important role in the perfect moment. If you are tired, sad, easily angered or irritated, Cupid may pass you right by without you even glancing back.
I do believe love at first sight is real. How long it will last is up to fate. If we look at forever as merely a blink in a moment of time, than we can all say that once in our lifetime we may have experienced this phenomenon. Married couples openly state they "just knew" they would get married and that they were the one for each other. And even those who have dated for a short moment can still admit to the feelings of love at first sight.
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I have seen many people find their true love and have been together for years. A dear friend called me one night to tell me that she had met the most amazing man on a dating website. He was everything she had ever wanted. They talked for hours on the phone and met face to face the next day for coffee. Physically, they were exactly what each other was looking for. They spent every day together learning more and more about each other. We all liked her new man tremendously and some of us were envious she found such a great catch and the relationship took off so fast. Unfortunately, within months, it was over. As quickly as the fire grew, smoking embers were all that were left months later. She was devastated. Their short "forever" together was definitely a hot and heavy relationship. Yet for that specific moment in time it just could not be. Although the relationship ended, both will describe it as love at first sight.
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Love is the most powerful human emotion. I believe that if you are shot by Cupid, and find yourself falling in love that very first night you meet, the feelings may be real. Stepping out of yourself and seeing the reality of your situation is a wise choice. Love at first sight can cause fireworks to go off with that first kiss. But remember, fireworks can hurt and burn. I suggest cautiously go forward with your feelings, embracing every emotion, but always make sure your mind and your heart are team mates. Sometimes the heart can be more powerful.
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