make love not war

my dad cant stand my husband ...being mariedis hard with out familys adding their 2cents on it,my husband has done every thing to try to please my dad but he doesnt care we have been maried for ten years but my husband has never seen the inside of my dads house he must still wait for me out side all because of lobola. lobola is meant to be a beatiful tradition but in my case it is hell...my brother has spoken to my dad but nothing my whole family has tryed on my side i stopped talking to him but in return he banned me from the family house ,now i cant go home... there are days when i miss my family but cant see them..i cant just go home when ever have to wait for him to be gone.and i love my husband he is agood man he treats me with so much respect and love ,i cant sacrifice our love just to please my dad...he is good to all my family except my dad so please dads out there put your child happyness before your ego or pride what ever it is .....