Men & their butt holes...

Ok so I need to vent....

I really don't understand why men can't accept the fact that they don't mind a little action in their hole!!! I know a lot of you are thinking right now that I'm some crazy sex freak that likes to stick the finger up mens butt- NOT TRUE! I love giving oral and sometimes i like giving the a**hole a little action... but not entirely! Men don't seem to mind but when brought to their attention, they get all defensive. There's nothing wrong with it as long as nothing goes in it right????

Help me understand men..... PLEASE?