How to Have a More Intense Orgasm
When it comes to getting 'turned-on', men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or if you're upset about something, you may be unable to fully experience all of the magnificent sensations your body is capable of. It is imperative to reduce stress, tension and disturbance before embarking on a sexual journey...with or without a partner.
"Electric flesh-arrows traversing the body. A rainbow of color strikes the eyelids. A foam of music falls over the ears. It is the gong of the orgasm." - Anais Nin
Most women enjoy a combination of mental, emotional and physical stimulation to feel aroused. Although there are numerous erogenous zones, the clitoris is the main point of interest that evokes the most pleasure when stimulated. The clitoris is a complex network with over 8,000 nerve fibers concentrated in one tiny little fleshy bump! There are more pleasure-producing sensory receptors in the clitoris than any other part of the female body. Women can experience a highly charged surge of energy during orgasm as the clitoral nerves interact with the 15,000 nerve fibers throughout the entire pelvic area. It is truly an epicenter of explosive ecstatic potential to generate more incomprehensible pleasure imaginable!
Orgasm is truly all in your mind, however you do need to let go of all thoughts and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations, without any distractions. It is, in a sense, a meditation to practice and ultimately master. In fact, it is possible to bring yourself to a powerful orgasm while sitting absolutely still-no movement, stimulation or friction whatsoever. Many women have testified to having the ability to produce a full-on "mindgasm"! It is a matter of having focused intention, good muscle control and rhythmic deep breathing. But first, you need to practice and "control" the orgasm experience with physical stimulation.
In the same way that a complete understanding of electricity is not necessary in order to flip the switch and receive its benefit (light, music, etc.), you do not need to know the complex inner workings of your physical body to enjoy immense pleasure. You only need to understand the simple process by which you allow your cells and nerve endings to generate certain physical sensations. Basically, you need to find which buttons do what. As you find and practice resonance with the vibrational source within you, communication between the cells of your body flourishes, as does your entire physical body. And it all begins with the simple focus on your breathing to "flip the switch" to absolute physical well-being and infinite pleasure.
All women have the innate capacity to experience intense, mind-blowing orgasms (even multiple orgasms). Men are also able to orgasm multiple times with or without ejaculating. However, most have trouble controlling the release. Women have an easier time managing their orgasms, as we can better regulate our vaginal contraction and release muscles. Women can experience numerous successive orgasms during a dedicated session of focused stimulation. After the initial orgasm, subsequent climaxes may be more powerful and pleasurable as the stimulation intensifies. Some women also enjoy continuous waves of orgasmic pleasure throughout the entire sexual experience for as long as they choose to endure.
It is possible (from my own experience) to reach orgasm within 20 seconds and produce multiple orgasms (2 to 3 per minute on average) for as long as I choose. The World Record of the most recorded orgasms within one hour is 134! Generally after a dozen or so, you are pretty exhausted as it can be quite draining-figuratively and literally speaking! Some women actually ejaculate fluid during orgasm (I happen to "squirt" quite a bit)...but that is a whole other article! ; )
By focusing your mind's attention to this specific area, the easiest way to reach orgasm is to apply rhythmic pressure to the clitoris and surrounding area. The methods and processes may be different for each woman, so it's important to experiment with what works best for you and clearly communicate that with your lover. Oral sex can be an excellent method for multiple orgasms, provided your partner knows what they are doing.
Generally, using a combination of tongue and fingers can provide an intense blended orgasm as the clitoris and the G-spot are simultaneously stimulated. Another effective technique is for your partner to rub the tip or the shaft of his penis over the clitoral area either from side to side, or gently thrust between the folds of the labia. Sometimes it's easier to take control by being on top and regulating the pace and pressure to achieve orgasm. Or, try using your own fingers to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.
You certainly know best what feels the most pleasurable and it's up to you to be directive in your sexual experience. To enhance sensitivity, try the all-natural [G] Stimulation Gel, which contains Evening Primrose Oil, to increase blood flow to the clitoris, and also menthol to provide a warm tingling sensation. There is no such thing as having too much fun or experiencing too much pleasure. By allowing yourself to indulge in extreme ecstasy, it will greatly reduce the stress in your life, as well as support a healthier mind and body, and will also nourish your relationship tremendously!
Written by Allura Joy for YourTango.
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