Why Everyone Should Take Personal Responsibility in a Relationship


By Erin Lindsay Miller for BounceBack.com

Our happiness and unhappiness results from our own freely chosen actions, and the same is true for others. Now, this doesn't mean someone we love has the capability of hurting us, but when we believe someone is completely responsible for our own happiness we feel angry when we do not get what we want. The right person will bring out the best, but don't look for someone else to to fulfill.

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Looking for someone else to fulfill can come in many deceptive forms, but the root is all the same: adopting a quality or material means of another to fill what is lacking. Focusing on becoming strong within is our third step in the 4-phase process for bouncing back to happiness. The third step begins with a strong willingness to accept responsibility for what has happened. It is a time to stop hiding from ourselves and gain perspective on the relationship in a non-judgmental manner.

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During this time, we accumulate the wisdom we need to bounce back to happiness. We learn the very important reasons for our behavior and stop accusing our partner for being wrong and the door opens for more understanding and respect. When we are open and willing to learn everything will change and we can stop blaming another for our own personal limitations.

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