Recovering love addict seeking answers for codependent behavior
As a recovering love addict, I'm trying to make peace with the fact that I become codependent, and lose myself whenever I fall in love with a man. Since women are raised with the nurturing quality, we (mostly) automatically assume we have to "care for others," and "fix things," even when our own needs aren't being met. Is there any chance of breaking the chain of events, or am I destined to always be the "caregiver" for a man I love? Since I realize (after a man breaks up with me) that I lose myself and focus mostly on the relationship, I've decided to "just say 'no' to the drug" (which is falling in love). I would like to have a healthy relationship some day, but I wonder if I will be strong enough to keep boundaries in the future. Any thoughts of how to avoid the pitfalls of love addiction/co-dependency?
