Satisfying Yourself in the Sack
There are many reasons for a woman to find herself without an available partner (key word: "available.") It may be that she has no partner at all, that she is widowed or divorced, never married, or currently without a "special someone" to supply sexual gratification. It may also be, however, that she is happily married or cohabitating with a man who is either no longer able to attain an erection or no longer interested in pursuing a sex life. It happens…and more so when a woman gets older.
Some men, who can no longer attain an erection, get help with such meds as Viagra or Cialis. But they're not for everyone. They're contraindicated with certain medical conditions or in tandem with certain other meds. And they're no use at all if the problem is a loss of sexual desire. There are pharmaceutical remedies for that, too, but again, they're not for everyone. For one thing, their efficacy depends in part on the cause of the lack of libido. For another thing, there are, again, health risks inherent in taking them.
One woman whose partner no longer had any interest in sex reported that when she spoke frankly to her gynecologist about the problem, he suggested she ask her mate for an open relationship, or simply enter into a discreet affair. Instead, she went out and bought a fresh supply of batteries.
Ever since the invention of vibrators, women have been using them for a lot more than the "stiff neck muscles" that many general-merchandise catalogs coyly have advertised them as being useful for. (In fact, I tried mine on a painful neck once and found it no help at all for that. But it's just dandy for it's real intended purpose.)
There are a variety of sexual devices that are sold for use in either partnered or solo sex, but certain ones lend themselves more naturally to relieving your own sexual frustrations. And central to these is the basic vibrator, whether you use the standard "wand" model or the small "butterfly" style.
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And then, of course, there's good old-fashioned fingering, which is how most of us learned to masturbate, before vibrators were even around. (Although I have heard reports of women in "the old days" who got hold of vibrating massagers, which strapped on to the back of the user's hand, that really were intended to be used as back and neck therapy aids, but turned out to have other uses their manufacturers never intended.)
Women who are strong proponents of everything "natural" may prefer not using a vibrator. Still another obvious benefit is that, unlike a vibrator, one's hand is silent. If your situation is that you live alone and are partnerless, you and your vibrator can both get as noisy as you please and no one will be any the wiser (unless your bed is right next to an open window.)
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