Settle an Argument, Bedroom Temperature Edition: He Likes it Hot, She Likes It Cold
By Perri O. Blumberg, REDBOOK
Another sleeping dilemma this week, but this time around, no snooze bar button crisis is involved. Tammy, 45 and Mike, 45, have been happily married for 21 years. They both work full time and both start their jobs in the wee hours of the morning, waking before 4a.m., so they like to retire for the evening fairly early. During the night, Tammy likes to have a ceiling fan constantly running and will even open the window in the winter. Mike, who enjoys sharing the bed with his wife, simply prefers warmer temperatures for sleeping. He tries to use blankets and other means to stay warm overnight but just can't get a good night's sleep in the constant chill of their bedroom. As a result, he sometimes sleeps in the guest bedroom, which makes Tammy upset.
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He says: "I don't mind a little chill in the air, but a freezing room simply shouldn't be an option. Snuggling up next to her doesn't work because that makes her even hotter! I love my wife, but to rest peacefully, I just take my show on the road."
She says: "We were married for better or worse and while I may not be able to help the fact that I get really hot at night, he can easily just grab another blanket and keep it on his side. Moving to the guest bedroom makes me feel unloved and shouldn't be an option."
Whose side are you on? (Explain your reasoning in the comments section.)
- Mike
- Tammy
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