What His Sex Fantasies Really Mean

He wants to play teacher and student. You game?He wants to play teacher and student. You game?When we heard that 31 percent of dudes fantasize about getting it on in the White House, we were a little shocked. But when we realized this probably just symbolizes his lust for power and scandal (and not a man-crush on the president), we totally get it. Here, an expert weighs in on what his other sex dreams really mean.

By Casey Gueren

Getting It On In Public
He's an adrenaline junkie who craves excitement, but he also enjoys showing off a little. Whether he's proud of you or his own bod, this guy likes the idea of someone watching him, says Gloria Brame, PhD. Tap into this by subtly grabbing him under the table at a busy restaurant and whispering in his ear that you think the waitress knows exactly what's going on.

Tying You Up
If he's getting all Christian Grey on you, this dude desires control. Relax-he doesn't have a sex dungeon in mind. He wants the power to spend the night pleasing and teasing you, says Brame. If you're weirded out by being bound or handcuffed, have him hold your arms above your head during the action.

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A Threesome With Two Women
What does it mean if your man wants double lovin' from two chicks (other than that he has a pulse)? It isn't that he's greedy. "He's a sensualist; he loves women and wants to be fawned over," says Brame. Creeped out by the idea? Turning on some porn while you're getting busy is the next best thing. Still too racy? Try pretending someone else is with you when you get it on.

Teacher and Student
No, he isn't still harboring a crush on his 8th grade teacher. "This fantasy brings him back to his horny teenage years, when sex was still taboo," says Brame. It also puts you in the power position, which a lot of guys find super arousing. "It takes the pressure off so they can relax and enjoy."

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Having Sex With a Stranger
He's craving passion and novelty-without the responsibility of a serious relationship, says Brame. "There's a freedom there that takes away any anxiety he would have about performing and pleasing a steady girlfriend," says Brame. Conjure up those same feelings by pretending to be strangers at a bar, then pick each other up.

A Crazy Porn Move
When your guy suddenly tosses out an insane fantasy he saw in a vid, try not to read too much into it. "Porn can sometimes be a way for him to get ideas and open up the dialogue about what he likes, doesn't like and wants to try in bed," says sex therapist Erika Pluhar, PhD. Her advice: use it as a jumping off point to try new things, but don't expect rave results. "It can set up completely unrealistic expectations for couples," says Dr. Pluhar.

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A Celebrity Fling
It's no surprise he's got a thing for Kate Upton, but what does it mean if he fantasizes about having sex with her? Um, absolutely nothing. "Celebrities are attractive, unattainable, and their pictures are plastered everywhere-all logical reasons why he thinks about them sexually," says Dr. Pluhar. Another explanation: It's just a harmless crush. Hey, he can have her if you can have Ryan Gosling.


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