The Sex Secret Older Women Keep from Younger Women
Sure, by playing Samantha Jones and being outspoken about sex, Kim Cattrall has made some headway, but these days, middle or senior aged women having sex, enjoying sex is still something of a joke in our culture. In our youth-dominated pop culture, we seem to think that once you hit 45, it's all downhill -- other hot, mature women like Demi Moore, Madonna, and Meryl Streep be damned!
But that is so not true! And research is finally proving it: A study published in the American Journal of Medicine found, in a group of women between 40 and 100, half were sexually active, and more of those women said they were able to become aroused, maintain lubrication, and achieve orgasm during sex, even after the age of 80! In other words, satisfaction seems to go up with age! Whoa, baby!
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That's exciting news in itself, but there's more ... These findings actually shed some light on what under 40s can be doing to have better sex.
Lead researcher Elizabeth Barrett-Connor, MD noted that the main complaint of young people who suffer from sex dysfunction is that they have a low interest in sex. But meanwhile, the older women were not thinking about sex, planning to have sex ahead of time, longing for sex, etc. and yet ... they had sex activity that was satisfactory to them.
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Hmm, interesting! Of course, what's satisfying to you, me, or any of women in this study is relative. But the bottom-line was that they said they're enjoying themselves! And at the same time, the young people are spending time stressing out, planning, overthinking sex ... and still finding themselves suffering from some form of sex dysfunction/low libido. Kinda makes me think these older women are onto something!
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Maybe no matter your age, all that worrying/overanalyzing/planning/Woody Allen-ing out when it comes to sex is just counterproductive. We put so much pressure on ourselves to have out-of-this-world sex, even going to the extent of worrying what celebs are doing or the kind of sex our friends are having or whatever, and as a result, we're killing our sex lives! Seems like as "with it" as we younger women think we are, we could stand to take a tip from the more mature women in this study and realize that the less we stress about sex, the better it gets.
What do you think about the results of this study? Do you agree that it's better not to overthink sex?
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Written by Maressa Brown on CafeMom's blog, The Stir.
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