The 5 Rules of Making a Move on Someone Who’s Taken
So you've met that perfect someone, the man or woman you suspect could be the illustrious "One" -- but they're inconveniently dating someone else. How do you plead your case?
First, are you absolutely convinced this person is your soul mate? Because if you're just in it for the sex, then stealing them away from a perfectly good relationship is just plain sleazy.
It's okay to be honest with the object of your affection, but no ultimatums. Confess your feelings, but try to avoid saying, "If I can't have you, no one will [maniacal laugh]," or, "I'm going to eat my goldfish if you don't go out with me."
Once the ball is in their court, give them the time and space to decide whether to return the serve - or hit the net. And here's the thing: You must let them make the decision alone. If you encourage them in any way to leave, lie to, or cheat on their current lover, you are weasel who deserves to roam the deserted streets of Solitude for the rest of your days.
If your "true love" eventually takes pity on you and decides to give you a second glance, you've got to give them a little more than twenty-four hours to acclimate to life without their recently axed ex. How can I possibly wait, you cry! We recommend taking the time to teach yourself chess. If they really are the One, they will be worth the wait. And if not, a well-honed chess game is always a handy thing.
A final word to the wise: In some cases, what keeps two people apart is what draws them together. The obstacle allows you to fantasize how perfect the union would be, if only the obstacle weren't there - like Romeo and Juliet (sans the double suicide). Once that obstacle is removed, the reality may turn out to be rather, well, blah. Remember, readers, be careful what you wish for.
