The Morning After: Tips for Post-Booty Call Texting
If you've managed to successfully execute a Late Night Booty Text and score some Late Night Booty, congratulations! Welcome to the wonderful world of no-strings-attached sex. While you may just want to bask in your post-coital glow, your work is not quite done. The message you send after a booty call sends a strong message, and you want to be sure to get it right, minimizing awkwardness and maximizing the potential for another romp in the near future.
The main objective should be to let him know you enjoyed yourself and that you know where you stand. It's good to give a guy an ego boost and not completely ignore him after a hook-up, but if you're too clingy, you will be seen as "that girl." He shouldn't wonder if you're trying to get a date out of the deal.
First, plan on texting or BBMing him. A Facebook message or a phone call is way too formal and will freak most guys out out. Play it safe and stick with your cell.
This is a situation where timing is everything. If you spent the night, wait until the next night to send a text. Don't be overeager; wait until 8 or 9 P.M. This is the time of night when everyone is browsing Facebook and thinking about sex (past, present, future). You want to be on his mind during prime time. If you didn't spend the night (look at you, Miss Hit It and Quit It!) then you can text or BBM him the morning after the hook-up. Even though you aren't the cuddling type, you want him to think of you while he's still in his boxers. First thing in the morning, guys tend to think of sex (past, present, and future).
So, what to say? First, it's always good to show a little appreciation. If you're new to this, and the four-letter words don't feel right just yet, be vague when you reference the activities of the previous night. "Glad you texted me last night" or "Glad we could meet up last night" is a good start, followed by "Had so much fun!" Short and to the point.
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If you get down-and-dirty with this person regularly, you can be a little more explicit. "So glad you called last night. I think my legs are still shaking!" Smiley face. You want to reference the hot, hot sex; this lets him know you're ready for the next round whenever he is.
You can also make a joke to let him know you don't take late-night booty calls too seriously. Start with, "Had so much fun last night…." followed by, "Did NOT know you were that bendy!" or "Can't believe we broke the fish tank!" or "Well, now we know what you mean when you ask me to 'study'!" A joke can add a little intimacy and make things much easier next time. (Now all he has to do is text you and ask you to study!) A word of caution: if you aren't naturally funny, get a friend's approval. Text humor is tricky.
You may be tempted to make a reference to alcohol - do not do this! Even if you were a waste case, it's not good to give the impression that you are a drunken floozy. It also makes it sound like you regret it or are trying to justify everything you did.
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He will likely respond, but his response isn't super important. It will likely contain an emoticon or "LOL." That's just how guys are. Whatever he says, try not to read into it. You don't want to have an extended conversation or make future plans. If what he says definitely requires a response, go ahead and write back, but if you don't have to, then, well, don't. He now knows you want to bang again. Leave it at that.
And leave it at that for at least a week. It can be tough, and you're probably going to get tempted in a few days when you have too much wine at happy hour, but seriously … leave it alone. Booty calls need to stay few and far between, especially at first. A weekly booty call starts to feel like a date, and, well, if you wanted to date, you shouldn't have gone to his place at 1 A.M.
Just send a text to insure that you're on good terms and that you have officially talked to him when you aren't trying to get ass. Even though the next time you talk to him will definitely be to get ass, guys don't always like to be treated like the pieces of meat that they are. But get the first text right, and you will be getting it all right for many nights to come.
by Rachel Wilkerson for TechCoquette
