The Top 10 Pros of Virginity

Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a junior English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called "The Virgin Diaries." Here's her eighth installment. Tune in to that site for her Top 10 Cons of Virginity:

  1. If my period skips a month, it's a cause for celebration, not despair. Living without the fear of becoming pregnant from my choices is extremely liberating.
  2. I don't shoot up and I'm not worried about blood transfusions, so gonorrhea, chlamydia, HPV, AIDS, etc, have nothing over me.
  3. I can still imagine my first time being a mind-blowing sexual encounter (replete with orgasms and possibly even female ejaculation) rather than knowing it was a disappointment (like many of my non-virgin friends).
  4. From what I've gathered, college sex is not the most satisfying - with women's orgasms and even pleasure not high on the list of many a male co-ed.
  5. By this point, I'm pretty much immune to any potential sexual peer pressure, and won't easily give into doing anything I'm uncomfortable with.
  6. It makes my mom happy and helps keep the peace between us. She enjoys having bragging rights about her "virginal daughter," and never fails to bring it up with family and friends.
  7. My heart is break-proof right now. I haven't placed myself in a position of emotional risk by having sex with a man I might not realize doesn't actually care for me.
  8. Being a virgin gives me the objective, outsider perspective on sex and relationships, which is invaluable when it comes to helping friends sort out their personal issues.
  9. You can be sexual without having partner sex (and suffering all its inherent risks). Just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I blush at the thought of sex or wear white on a daily basis. Believe it or not, I enjoy masturbation, porn, and the occasional dirty joke.
  10. I get to write The Virgin Diaries!
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