Three Cheers For Singledom!!!

Happy Lady
Happy Lady



"Baby steps, every day." That is my motto that has given me strength since my ex moved out Christmas morning in 2009. I have been grateful for the caring souls that reached out to me in my time of need, and their words of wisdom resound in my head every so often-- as needed. It's okay to backslide occasionally when a moment of weakness discombobulates your inner peace, just keep focusing on your goals and move forward. Even snails at their slow speed eventually get to where they are headed.

So, I'm officially off the market (and have been since January). Oh, yeah, it's hard sometimes-- who doesn't miss the intimacy, cuddling, and sharing long, romantic kisses? But I have a new mantra: "I don't NEED anything." Well, sure, the basic necessities of living, and the companionship of people I love. But I'm learning that being single is quite liberating, and EMPOWERING! The best method of breaking a bad habit (which for me is being codependent), is to avoid the situation. I have no one in my life now that I feel needs "tending to" so I can't be "dependent" on anyone. It's really nice to not "miss" anyone, or expect a phone call, or keep my plans "open" for the weekend.... I plan things to do for myself now, and I LOVE it!

Three cheers for everyone who is single and embraces the freedom! We give up the comfort of being in a loving relationship, but the benefits of being single are quite enjoyable (to say the least). I like flirting without guilt. I like having guys hit on me, and not feel the need to have to cater to them. I feel sexy to be wanted, and hold back-- that is new for me. Baby steps.... I'm getting there.

What are some of the things you value most as being single? What do you miss most about being in a relationship? Which do you think is better?