User post: The 7 Deadly Mistakes Men Make When Dating

OK, guys, since you asked for it in the comments about "The 7 Deadly Mistakes Women Make," I've decided to post the worst blunders men make when dating. I've done some research on the subject, and my pointers are coming from a female perspective (so I've been there and done that). Remembering these 7 key "no-nos" should help when initially dating a woman. Whether or not there will be any chemistry is entirely up to the moment, but avoiding these mistakes might help make some sparks:

1.Too much, too soon. Guys feel physical attraction in an instant, and want to move in as quickly as possible. Some women take longer to decide if they are attracted to a man, but if a guy becomes an octopus too quickly, he will creep her out faster than a horror flick. Trying to move in with a kiss or blurting out too quickly how you feel about a woman will put awkward pressure on her. Take it easy, and make her feel comfortable around you.

2.Talking too much and not listening. This goes for both men and women, but first dates are a chance to get to know each others personality. There's no need to list all your attributes like you're applying for a job-- the date should be fun, not a business meeting. Women like to share their own thoughts, and asking questions about your date will help balance the scales of communication. And if you share your list of accomplishments from how much money you make and what kind of cars and toys you own, don't be surprised if the only woman still interested is the "gold digger."

3.Being rude-- and not just to your date. It goes without saying that a woman doesn't want her flaws pointed out by her date. Speaking to her condescendingly will not score you any points, so calling her "Barney Rubble feet," or reminding her that her IQ score is a few points below yours will not be impressive. Be aware that if you talk down to other people while on the date, she is picking up on it. If the soup is cold, and you chew the waiter's head off, she will see a potential disaster of what she will get if things ever get more serious.

4.Flirting with other women. Enough said.

5.Being insecure or sloppy. First impressions last for the remainder of a relationship, so make it count. Positive vibes are all you should take with you on a date, so if you are nervous-- she will pick up on it (women are intuitive by nature). Showing up late for a date is really bad. As bad as wearing food stained shirts, not brushing your teeth, or having greasy hair. If the first dates are already showing your bad side, chances are she won't stick around to see if there's any good ones.

6.Forgetting to be a gentleman. Women's lib, or female empowerment, or whatever-- a woman (no matter how independent, strong and confident) still enjoys a man who will be chivalrous. Open doors, pull out her chair to be seated, even kiss her hand if you want to. But don't EVER walk three paces in front of her, get ahead of her when walking through an entrance, or ignore her to talk to other people on a date.

7.Unrealistic expectations. No amount of money, good looks or power can control what a woman feels about a man. Look at how some beautiful women are with an average looking guy: personality really does matter. There's no need to over-do it with bringing her flowers and gifts (unless you are interested in the gold digger type), because a woman will go with her feelings, more than anything else. If she likes what she sees on the inside, and you make her feel good about herself, the attraction will happen eventually. Just be yourself, and have confidence. If there is no love connection, it wasn't because of anything wrong with you; you just haven't found the right woman to appreciate who you are, yet.