User post: The Seven Deadly Mistakes Women Make When Dating



Because I've been guilty of every deadly sin imaginable when dating men, I've decided to put up the list of mistakes women make when dating a man. This is gathered from researching what makes men tick, and what has them running faster than you can say "I want to get married." Don't feel bad if you start reading, and say to yourself, "dang, I did that!" I did, too. But I learn from my mistakes, and will be wiser and more prepared the next time. So will you.

Here is my list of "no-no's" women do when dating a guy:

1. Don't be emotionally unstable. If a guy sees you as a woman who blows her top or cries over insignificant issues, he will see you as trouble down the line, and most likely head for the hills if he sees you can't "keep it together."

2. Don't be a "yes" woman. A woman who openly shows a man how much she's attracted to him, and will go out of her way to please him is going to turn him off immediately. Not because he doesn't think you are wonderful, but because the "hunter" in him wants a challenge, and a woman who is easy for him is like the deer laying down in front of the hunter: the thrill of the kill has been taken away, and he isn't excited anymore.

3. Don't be too needy or insecure. Constantly texting, needing gratification or being too involved with a guy's life will make him turned off faster than you can flip a switch. He will be more impressed if you are independent, confident, and allow him to pursue you. Being "clingy" or what I call a "cling-on" (meaning you need 24 hour updates on his status, whereabouts, food he ate, people he met, and places he's visited) will make the guy feel like you are putting his "manliness" into your purse for safe keeping, and his friends will most likely make fun of him for it if they find out.

4. Don't fall for an emotionally unavailable guy. If he still has feelings for someone else, chances are, you will allow an emotional vampire to suck your life spirit out. He will take what he needs, and move on... or back to his old flame. And don't waste time with men who are only looking to score.

5. Don't fall for looks. Or an exciting guy with pizazz, sense of humor, or charming personality. Go for the guy who is similar in beliefs, values and goals as you. Lasting relationships are ones where good looks, laughs or romantic lines weren't clouding your judgment.

6. Don't be an open book. Telling a guy everything about your personal life (both good and bad) is like giving away what is inside a gift package. Let him find out slowly on his own what makes you tick... and for goodness sake, don't share your drama with him (at least not at the beginning).

7. Don't assume you are not "good enough" for a man. You are beautiful and unique just the way you are, and nothing is keeping you from finding a good man. The right one just hasn't come along to see what an amazing woman you are. Hang in there, enjoy your life, and love yourself. Sooner or later, the guy of your dreams will follow your lead.

Do you have any funny stories about any of the above mistakes? I'd love to hear them!