Want to get over your ex more quickly? Start by changing your breakup tunes.

Okay, so you've been dumped and it sucks. And still, weeks later, you're listening to the radio and getting your ears involved in all the wrong songs . But do you know that by assaulting your ears with these woeful songs, you're actually inhibiting your recovery? You are purposefully putting yourself in a depressed state of mind, because, let's face it, music makes the mood. I'm all for having a Pity Party after a breakup, but after weeks - or even months - it has to stop.

So how do you get out of this rut and change your state of mind? It's simple. Start by changing your breakup tunes.

For example:

  • If you've been cheated on, stop listening to "Secret Lovers" by Atlantic Starr and start listening to "Breathe" by Maroon 5.

  • If you were with a man that you were going to get married to, stop listening to "Endless Love" by Diana Ross & Lionel Richie and start listening to "Miss Independent" by Kelly Clarkson.

  • If you were dumped by a man who continues to spread rumors and speak badly about you in public, stop listening to any break up song that makes you cry and start listening to "Fighter" by Christina Aguilera.

Well, I'm not "hip" to the new music, so I don't know any "more current" songs to recommend - but i think you can get the idea. Don't buy into the songs that will make you cry. Listen to songs that empower you. These songs will ultimately help lift your mood so you can focus on mending your broken heart.